Amy
Hi Bonnie. I've been doing your "Loving mom on mothers day" and I found that what was lying underneath a bad relationship was that I truly hate her even though she passed away already. I feel the clearing mess it up a lot more than fixing it and I'd like to fix it.
I was adopted when I was 3 days old, one of my mother's friend said that my biological mom wasn't even 15 when she got pregnant with me, she didn't want to have me much less give me away; that my aunty/mother's sister was living here in NY and she did something to get me and another friend said that I was abducted not adopted.
I have a lot of confusion, uncertainty, hate towards all of me and around me, especially my mom. I feel like I was stolen from my biological mother but when you say that in the womb she's your creator and you absorbed her wounding I got more confused.
How can I know that why my hate is so big?
What is what I am feeling?
Is it her rejection to me that I made it mine so I hate myself for/because of her?
The hate she had for being pregnant with me without wanting to be? '
What can I do to get rid of all confusion and actually be happy and love myself, my life, my family?
I'm exhausted of fighting against my life. I just discovered this exhaustion is because of all that plus what I'm carrying from both family trees, well 4 because I'm adopted.
What can I do to heal/change?
Thanks
Amy
Received: January 26, 2024